Dating101

Jumping Back into the Dating Pool
Posted by: B

WOW it's been a while but there's no better way to start a new adventure than to do a new blog post!

I have recently decided to jump back into the dating pool.  When I brought up this decision to a couple of my friends there seemed to be 4 common pieces of advice given to me.  So, I thought I would share those pearls of wisdom with all of you!

1. You have to be ready.  

You can't listen to everyone else telling you to get out there and date someone, you have to go at your pace.  If that means waiting several months, then wait several months.  During that time work on yourself and get into a place you need to be in order to start dating again.

But be cautious about the length of time you do this.  Don't rush it but be realistic.

2. You have to put yourself out there.  

It might be scary at first but after a couple times you start to get the feel for it.  If you are really nervous about this you should try striking up a random conservation with a stranger.  Be that person in line that turns to the person next to you and ask a random question about something they are purchasing.  Work your way up to putting yourself out there with someone you might be interested in.

3. Don't be afraid to to take risks 

This goes hand and hand with number 2.  You have to be ready in order to take that risk.  Sometimes your risk won't be as successful as you may wish it to be but what's the worse that can happen?  Answer: the other person isn't that into you.  Blow to the ego?  Maybe, if you let it.  You have to realize that not everyone is going to be into you and that maybe a guy/girl you really like just isn't feeling you.  But that's normal.  So, don't look at the negative outcomes from the risks you take, instead look at the positive such as you tried or you found out something new about yourself.

4. Have fun. 

Learning about someone new is exciting.  You get all those giddy feelings again.  All of you should know exactly what I mean.  You smile when the guy you hope is into you sends you a text asking you out or after a great date you get a phone call telling you how much fun it was.  Live in the moment and enjoy every minute.

While these may seem to common sense it's good to refresh your memory sometimes.